Alex Rodriguez: Psychologically and Legally Checkmated-UPDATED
The wait is over Alex Rodriguez has been suspended for an unprecedented full season. What Rodriquez does next will tell us a lot about A-Rod’s state of mind. But my best guess is that he has not learned a thing from all that has gone down.
A-Rod has displayed a predictive pattern of having difficulty dealing with the truth, consequences and what this will all mean for his legacy. Thus, his actions have been and will be driven by those internal emotional struggles he is continually plagued by.
While Rodriguez has been criticized for his actions and attitudes as it relates to what his situation is, his reactions are no different than many other people who have been in similar situations.
Unfortunately many individuals including Rodriguez have not learned that once you have transgressed- you are at the mercy of those who hand out the consequences. In this case Rodriquez was at the mercy of Major League Baseball and the collective bargaining process both MLB and his union agreed upon.
One of the most difficult things people have problems with is the arbitrariness of consequences.
I sit with people all the time who complain that not only are their consequences not fair, and make comparisons to others who have either gotten away with something, or received a lesser punishment.
In A-Rod’s case he believed that he deserved a ban for not more than the 50 games since he had never previously been suspended. He further suggested his suspension should have been less than Ryan Braun’s who agreed to a 65-game ban in the case.
While this may be a natural reaction when faced with punishment, it is far from helpful from a personal standpoint, because it only deflects from being self-introspective as to why you did what got you into trouble in the first place. And Rodriquez seems to be in just this psychological place.
When people are consternated, frustrated and faced with looming consequences due to their own actions, it has been my experience that they tend to confuse and ultimately deflect from the issues at hand.
They do this by pointing out how they have been wronged by other parties–or what other parties have done wrong. This serves to not only to alienate others, but again to further distance oneself from what they have done.
Sure Rodriguez has and will continue to undoubtedly point out that the Yankees and MLB have done wrong things and are pressing their personal agendas. Of course they have!
Why wouldn’t the Yankees want to unload a burdensome monetary contract of a compromised athlete who has said disparaging things about them?
And why wouldn’t the game of baseball want to rid itself of someone they feel is both detrimental to the game, and has broken the collective bargaining agreement?
Beyond that, I am certain MLB and Bud Selig were less than happy that during their investigation they felt that Rodriguez attempted to hinder their progress, lied to them, played to the public’s sympathies and is suing them. Not the best way to make friends and influence people.
Rodriguez surely did not endear himself to lead arbitrator Fredric Horowitz when he accused him of being bias and walked angrily out of the arbitration hearing.
After his suspension was announced A-Rod immediately went after MLB in his statement which was also a blatant attempt to play to the fears of other players and garner their support. It fell on deaf ears.
I can see how many fans and the public would support Rodriquez. The reasons are many reasons for this.
First, they truly believe that Rodriguez has been unfairly punished. Second, they attempt to make the subjective objective which helps stabilize them in a world that is often arbitrary.
But most importantly they identify with being in the place and situation A-Rod is in, and thus become emotionally involved and reactive.
It has become more than crystal clear that A-Rod is either lying, very confused, in denial or all three. His behaviors suggest that it is all of the above.
The saying birds of a feather flock together applies to both Anthony Bosch and A-Rod. Most people who engage in illegal activities often consort with those that also do so.
Is Bosch what people are saying he is? Of course.
There are many reasons why people lie it is a common every day statistical occurrence.
In A-Rod’s case it appears that Bud Selig was just asking that Rodriguez tell the truth, or at least take his punishment (which is more than a tacit way of saying he did it) rather than have Rodriguez fight the suspension. .
Adults and people in general lie for a multitude of reasons which include, not wanting to be seen in less than a pristine light, and fear of the consequences. In addition, they often rationalize that others do it, so why not them? So when they see others get away with a transgression they rationalize that they should be able to do so as well.
People often tend to minimize the effect of their lies on others which most frequently further enrages the lied to party, as their reality and feelings are questioned. But all are attempts to make themselves feel better-albeit faulty ones.
There is little doubt that Alex Rodriguez despite all of his wealth and fame is a very insecure person. Many have pointed out that Rodriguez is highly influenced by others and suffers from the last person he has talked to syndrome. Meaning that he takes on the last opinion he has heard as his own.
People like Rodriguez suffer from a poor self-concept which breeds a deep sense of self-doubt. This in part would explain why one of the most gifted athletes of his generation with all the talent and money in the world would act in the manner he has.
Thus he sort out Bosch and others like him to achieve his emotional needs and goals.
Common sense would dictate that A-Rod has reached the end. This conclusion is bolstered by legal experts who are saying the gig is over and that A-Rod was poorly advised and bilked.
But when people are engaged in a struggle for their self-worth and legacies they can do desperate things and be swayed by others who share their misguided views.
If we are to believe what we hearing that A-Rod is going to continue fighting on with little chance of prevailing, it seems that he would be better served by taking his punishment and taking a good hard long look at where he has been, and where he should be going.
Personal growth is not easy especially when it is emotionally based. In this manner Rodriguez can begin to repair what has occurred.
We are a forgiving people and A-Rod has many supporters who are eager to help him rebuild his life. Perhaps against all odds he will take advantage of the opportunities he does have not the ones he has does not.
Many are asking why A-Rod is doing this the article addressed much but here are a few more thoughts.
1-A-Rod needed to be validated by being the best player of all-time. Hitting 800 homeruns, this tells me he has a low self-concept (which has been obvious to me) and needed the adulation to make him feel better.
People will go to great lengths to soothe themselves and make themselves feel better given the psychological wounds they have. A-Rod has plenty.
2-A-Rod is very angry and actually hurt. Keep in mind anger is energizing and emotionally invigorating. He is depressed underneath with a lot to be depressed about. His career is over and he is disgraced. His capacity to achieve his goals both personally and professionally are now out of reach.
3-He does love baseball now that is being taken away from him which is very upsetting to him to say the least.
4-If A-Rod were to stop what he is doing it would ALL be over. No baseball, disgraced and at 40 years of age no profession, or place to go publically and what is he going to do with the rest of his life?
A-Rod is one very unhappy man and for good reason.